years of age or older?
life experienced a minimum of 9-12 months?
to actively participate?
to share honestly with other submissive women?
We are a reality-focused lifestyle
Ds discussion list for real time, experienced female submissives.
Member relationships must incorporate some aspect or practice of BDSM as
well. Though, we do not discuss online
issues i.e.: netiquette, etc., topics with online components have
arisen on the list from time to time.
We expect each member to treat the next with dignity and
respect. This also extends to those who give of their time to run the
list. We expect that members will apply the "best intent" rule when
sharing or responding to questions put to the group. What is the "best
intent" rule? It is the one that says no matter what, assume that another
member has the best intent when participating on the list. It is the one
that says negatively over-reacting to what someone say is inappropriate
before you ask for clarification as to what they meant before launching a
on our list and the identities of fellow members is strictly confidential. We do not promise 100% confidentiality but we do our
best in protecting our members' privacy. If your Dom/me insists upon reading your email, you
should not apply for membership. Topics may be discussed off list
however specifics as to the person discussing those topics and their
specific personal identity and details are considered private information. Breaking
list confidentiality is grounds for unsubscription.
is not a fully moderated list, we do have guidelines and a team of
members who enforce them. It is really important to understand that we
are not a 'perfect' solution. There are plenty of people who have
come and gone over the years because we have not met their needs. By and
large, we try to meet the needs of the majority. That is the best we can
If you are
interested in receiving an application, we
ask that you initiate the process by writing a paragraph telling us a little bit about yourself
and your submission and BDSM experience. We are in the process of
automating our application request process. Once you send in your
request, you will receive a response asking you to confirm your request.
Once you have returned the confirmation, you will receive additional
information. If you do not confirm your request, you will not receive
any more information.