Who we are...

Those who are mentors within SIEVE are veteran members of LATCHES.  The way we work is through open discussion on the mail list.  This way, all members of the group benefit from the discussion, instead of only the person asking the question.  Each mentor will decide whether or not to contribute to the discussion, based on her own personal experience and how it applies to the issue being presented by the member.

Mentors are not assigned on a member-by-member basis, but there may be some 1:1 work that goes on in private communication when the need arises.

Dee

Screen Name

dee (Xiens_Lady)

Age

40 something

Location

NY

Email

dee_lx@yahoo.com

Ds experience

hitting on 10 years

Mentor experience

Before joining LATCHES, I have been a Moderator of a heavily populated Ds list for about four years now and through that time I have set up safe calls, been interviewed for books, and have been called upon a few times to house submissives who ran into trouble. Retired administrator of SIEVE.

Contribution

Contribution: My first Ds experience was jumping straight into a TPE Master/slave position. It was an eye opener so to speak. Most would consider Master and I the boy and girl next door and would never suspect anything different. Because of our way with each other I believe that's what lead us into Mentoring other submissives and Master has mentored some local Doms here also. I never realized I was mentoring - just lending a helping hand and giving of my experience. I was a member of LATCHES ASK AWAY team and now I am running their Discussion Board for ASK AWAY.

Role as mentor
I have always seen that no matter what, someone somewhere has had the same question, or the same problem and I have always been determined to let people know that they weren't alone. I remember going through a very difficult time once and if it was not for a Mistress and a Master who took their precious time to talk to me and guide me I probably would have asked for release and never looked back. When I asked what I could possibly do to repay them they asked that I only help others in the lifestyle in their time of need if I could. This is my way of saying thank you. Had I left or been released I would have missed out on the most precious thing - discovering me.
Teacher's Pet
Screen Name
Teacher's Pet
Age
40 Something..
Location
Western US
Ds experience
approx 12 years with my Master
Ds type
Just what has evolved in our relationship.. no set type..
Mentor experience
No real mentor experience outside of this list, just feel that I should help others out
Contribution
I hope by sharing my experiences and thoughts that others may find the answers they are looking for by taking what makes sense, combining it with what else they have experienced and learned, and throwing out the rest. In the discussions, everyone learns and benefits.
Role as mentor
Role as mentor listening to others and giving them an unbiased perspective from another angle, to help them see the answer they are looking for, as well as just being there because the person needs some support.
 
Embeth
Screen Name
Embeth
Age
47 (10/28/56)
Location
Eastern Australia
Email
emmbeth@yahoo.com.au
Ds experience
I have been active within my local community (attending munches, workshops and play parties, and participating in discussion groups both face to face and on-line) to varying degrees since 2000. I have been in my current relationship with since July 2003
Ds type
Master and I do not live together but do live in the same city and have contact on a daily basis. We are both single but Master has a joint custody of his 9 yr old daughter which makes a 24/7 D/s relationship a little difficult for at least the next few years. Our face-to-face relationship incorporates many formal elements of D/s as well as more physical BDSM components such as corporal punishment and bondage.
Mentor experience
This is my first formal opportunity to share a little of what I have learned from my life and experiences as a submissive.
Contribution & Role as mentor
My objective is to be supportive, but I'd like to think my contributions will help provide an added perspective, identify possible options for managing the hard stuff as well as being thought provoking in a good way.
 
His Littlerose
Screen Name
His Littlerose
Age
32
Location
Eastern USA
Ds experience
Approximately 8 years with my Dominant
Mentor experience
No actual mentor experience outside of this list.
Contribution
My hope is that by sharing my experiences and thoughts I may be able to help others through the process of exploring their submissive nature. Having met my Dominant on line and continuing a long distance relationship for several years I understand what it is like to have a long distance relationship. Having moved in together and creating our life, I understand what it is like to go from long distance to 24/7. I hope that my sharing makes another feel less alone. I also hope that by sharing some of what I have gone through, someone else will feel a little more comfortable during the process.
Role as mentor
I see my role as a mentor as being a good listener and a place for honest advice based on the perspective I have from my experiences. I think that as a mentor I should be supportive and do the best I can to be unbiased and sincere.
 

There are sites springing up on the Net offering resource information, training and support services.  There are many different aspects and points of view presented.   We don't attempt to prescribe a course of action, only you can determine that.   We do want to provide you with as much information as we can find to help you make those decisions.

The informational links below may help clarify a few things in terms of whether or not you need a Dom/me mentor during this period of exploration.  As always, take what information you need and leave the rest.  Do what is right for you, not what someone else is telling you was right for them. 

http://latches.beautyscastle.com/newslet/good.htm


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