SIEVE affirms safe, sane and consensual as a solid foundation for all activity.
Because we can not guarantee confidentiality, discussion of non-consensual issues such as extra-marital affairs are discouraged. We also caution members for reasons pertaining to possible implications with current/future divorce and child custody issues. We advocate consensuality as a basis for all aspects of any relationship. An example of this would be related to spousal knowledge of your BDSM activity if a dom/me is someone other than the spouse.